After the Leap and Before the Landing: Your Time Between-Dreams

(This post is part of the “LifeWork Renewal 101″ Series. The series introduction is HERE.)

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Have you been there…

suspended in a kind of limbo somewhere between a major ending and your next beginning?

I certainly have. Several uncomfortable journeys there in fact.

It’s maddening.

Endings are hard enough. By the time you come out the other end, you’re tired and feeling more than a little beat-up.

You’re ready for relief. Ready for something better. And honestly, ready for some certainty.

But instead, you often find an uncomfortable pause. A between-place that can extend much longer than the practical-brain can stand.

It’s not what you were expecting. And you wonder what you might be doing wrong.

Recently I met Ellen

and her story reminded me powerfully about this normal but daunting territory…

Ellen doesn’t dabble.

She dove into law. She did the mountain of schoolwork, passed the bar, and invested all of her effort and talent. Then she entered misery.

Never a wimp, she gave the profession 10 unhappy years of her life (not counting her years of education.) And, like many doomed relationships, she desperately tried to make it work. She changed positions and explored several different legal roles: Public Defender, Prosecutor, and more…

And found misery in every one.

Ellen’s battle to make her profession work took it’s toll. The stress and misery wore at her pride, ate at her self confidence and, eventually, impacted her health.

Finally, with the gut-deep feeling of standing on a cliff edge, she leapt – quitting, and leaving law for good.

More than a Career Change

It took real courage. It took some good therapy. But when she left Ellen knew it was the only way to get her life back. Beyond leaving law, Ellen was leaving behind her way of choosing. [Read more...]

LifeWork Renewal 101: Ten Truths for the Journey to Your Brilliant NEXT

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You’re on a Journey of Renewal

You may have your own title for this – less grand and optimistic sounding.
Maybe your way of talking about it sums up the challenge of your current situation:

  • “I hate my job.”
  • “I’m in transition.”
  • “I’m exhausted but need to keep going.”
  • “I lost my job, my marriage, my spark, my dream…”
  • “I know I don’t want this anymore, but I don’t know what I DO want.”
  • “I’m figuring out what’s next.”
Or perhaps you speak for the part of you that’s already committed to finding a new way. Something like:
  • “I’m ready. Ready for something more.”

However you express it, know that the loss of your old dream is neither a mistake you made, nor a problem with some logical solution that you’ve somehow missed. Most simply – you’ve outgrown it.

And now Life is calling you to discover new brilliance.

Change – Where the Journey Begins

Change happens.

Your change may be external: your job went away, a relationship ended, your nest is suddenly empty, a loved one died, the housing market collapsed…

Or perhaps your change is more internal:

  • A career path that used to be comfortable has begun to feel too small.
  • Important parts of your life that were satisfying have lost meaning.
  • Work that used to energize now drains you.
  • A goal you achieved and enjoyed  is starting to feel like a jail.

Whether something INSIDE has changed and old roles no longer fit, or an OUTSIDE change has mugged your old life, here you are.

Welcome to transition. The journey has begun.

(And, as you’ll discover here at Brilliant NEXT,  you’re in very good travel company.) [Read more...]

Employed By Life – Closing the Gap in Employment

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When you leave the workplace to raise a family or to pursue another goal how can you claim and communicate your unique value when it’s time to re-enter the job market?

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This inspiring On Purpose interview is with Teri Hockett, Co-founder and Chief Empowerment Officer (CEO) of What’s For Work, a community of Empowered Women that has everything in one place; a community that encourages members and companies to work together; to inspire and help each other grow.

As a wife, mother of two, and business woman, Teri understands the challenges women face, and is passionate about showing those in career transition how to reframe their experience to demonstrate what makes them uniquely qualified. She has spent her entire career making a point to help women understand the value of their Employed By Life skills.

You can hear the full interview replay or download the mp3 file using the audio player at the top of this post. You can also listen to this interview, as well as past and future interviews, by subscribing to our free iTunes podcast => HERE.  (Resource links for this episode are near the bottom of the post.)

Gem of Wisdom:

Insure Your Career
We get insurance for our health, for our life in anticipation that something my happen, but we don’t insure our career, we don’t take care of it, groom it, take classes that we need, network.

Do these things to insure your career.

One Small Step:

What Makes You Happy?
Take some time yourself, take a journal out or go somewhere quiet and focus on, What makes you happy? When you were the most happy, what were you doing? What did it look like?

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Creativity: A Path to Calm

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The journey to a lifework of passion and purpose, can be stressful with many starts and stops along the way. Is it possible to find calm in the midst of distress? The answer is Yes!

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This inspiring On Purpose conversation is with returning guest Rev. Maggie Oman Shannon, Senior Minister at Unity Spiritual Center of San Francisco. Maggie is the author of five books, her most recent is Crafting Calm: Projects and Practices for Creativity and Contemplation.

She is currently working on her next book, Crafting Gratitude. She is the former editor of three national magazines, including the Saturday Evening Post. Her writing has appeared in publications including Utne Reader and Beliefnet.com and her work has been featured in Spirituality and Health magazine.

You can hear the full interview replay or download the mp3 file using the audio player at the top of this post. You can also listen to this interview, as well as past and future interviews, by subscribing to our free iTunes podcast => HERE.  (Resource links for this episode are near the bottom of the post.)

 

Gem of Wisdom:

“You are creative. Everyone is creative. Keep exploring until you find your groove. It is so important to wrap your hands, mind and heart around it because it gives you the confidence to bring your creative gifts forward.”

One Small Step:

Capture Grace Notes – Moments of Beauty in Your Life
Carry something with you that would allow you capture a synchronistic moment or a moment of beauty, a grace note in your life. I remember when my daughter saw this oil spill on the ground and said, “Mommy, look – I want to take a picture of it.” It was so beautiful to her. I was walking right by it and didn’t think twice about it. If we can re-train ourselves to look at our world, see the beauty in it, see the grace that surrounds us all the time, our lives will be fundamentally different.

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All You Need Is Less

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Do you think about living a more eco-friendly and simple life but find that some of your daily habits get in the way? What if you there were simple steps you could take immediately to have greater simplicity in your life and free up your energy, would you take them?

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This enlightening On Purpose conversation is with Madeleine Somerville, the author of All You Need Is Less: The Eco-Friendly Guide to Guilt-Free Green Living and Stress-Free Simplicity.

Madeleine adores writing in all its incarnations, and has a popular blog at SweetMadeleine.ca. She has a B.A. in sociology and became an unrepentant, tree-hugging hippie after moving to British Columbia eight years ago. She lives in Vancouver, Canada with her husband, Adam, her baby girl, Olive, and their dog, Gus.

You can hear the full interview replay or download the mp3 file using the audio player at the top of this post. You can also listen to this interview, as well as past and future interviews, by subscribing to our free iTunes podcast => HERE.  (Resource links for this episode are near the bottom of the post.)

Gem of Wisdom:

Be gentle with yourself in this process.

Focus on what you are doing. Take small steps. Be encouraged by how far you’ve come instead of looking at how far you have to go. Pick one area of your life that you are excited about and start there.

One Small Step:

Re-Focus Holidays Not On the Gift rather On the Experience

  • Do a “Secret Santa” gift exchange in your families – so you are giving one person a gift.
  • Wrap gifts in newspaper with colorful ribbon, put gorgeous buttons on it, or you can paint on it. If you are giving a child a little kitchen set you can wrap it in an apron. If you’re going art supplies you can wrap them in a smock.
  • Create a tradition of giving-out, volunteering at a soup-kitchen or homeless shelter. If you have a child, going through the toy box and choosing toys to give someone who might not have as much. Re-focusing from getting to giving.

Favorite Quotes:

“I started to have the desire to live a more green life when we got our dog several years ago. We brought him home he sat down and was licking the floor. I thought it was so cute and then I realized that I had been cleaning my floor with cleaners that had toxic warning labels all over it. That was the first time I realized I was using products in my home and on my body that I had no idea what the ingredients were.”

“I made laundry detergent and I felt like a magician. It was an inspiring and empowering feeling to be able to make something and to know exactly what went in it. Now I make most of the items in my home from cleaners, to laundry detergent to lotions and shampoos. “ 

“I started putting my recipes together in a little booklet that I would sell alongside crafts that I sold at craft fairs. Eventually my friends started asking for recipes, my family started using the recipes and I found that it wasn’t just working for me it was working for them too. This momentum propelled me to share these recipes on my blog.”

“I made a list of some simple things that you could do like getting a cone instead of a cup when you’re getting ice cream so you don’t have anything to throw away, or using a jar instead of a paper coffee cup when you go to get coffee. My publisher (VIVA Editions) happened upon this list and loved it and I was given the hugest platform to write a book.”

“I went back and forth for months with my publisher to figure out the title. I wanted something that would convey the simplicity of the environmental movement. To be eco-friendly all you need is less.”

“Take small gradual steps towards a more eco-friendly life. You don’t have to do it all at once. Just do one thing one at a time. You don’t have to focus on the 75 things you’re not doing that your neighbor is doing who has solar panels. Let each small success propel you forward.”

Insider Circle Winner

Members of our free On Purpose Insider’s Circle are automatically eligible to win a free book or gift from guests we interview. At the end of each episode we do a drawing, exclusively for our Insider Circle members, for that week’s gift.

This week’s Insider Circle Winner of a Madeleine’s book, All You Need is Less, is, Linda Sfrom California.

Congratulations Linda!

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How to Keep a Good Thing Growing

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Even after you have clarity for a new lifework vision and are actively building it, there are both internal and external obstacles. How do you stay inspired and on-track?

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Every three months On Purpose Show co-hosts, Susyn Reeve and Rikk Hansen, take a step back and host a special episode. These episodes are part of a series called “Perspectives on Purpose,” where we draw on our wealth of experience along with the wisdom of recent On Purpose Show guests.

Rikk here: During this conversation I interview Susyn about her experience and work to keep a good thing going as her passion and purpose continues to evolve.

Susyn Reeve is the co-founder of Self-Esteem-Experts.com and the best selling author of The Inspired Life: Unleashing Your Mind’s Capacity for Joy. Her new book, The Wholehearted Life: Big Changes and Greater Happiness Week By Week will be published in November 2014. She has 40 years of experience as a Coach, Corporate Consultant, Educator and InterFaith Minister. Her clients have included: American Express, New York University, Exxon, Continental Airlines, The Metropolitan Museum and YPO (Young Presidents Organization).

As a teen she wrote in her journal, “What would the world be like if everyone loved themselves?”  This question informed her commitment to partner with clients and guide them in deepening and expanding their capacity to experience vibrant self esteem, peace, happiness, love and joy. She has been a delegate to the UN Commission on the Status of Women, and adjunct Associate Professor at New York University teaching Interpersonal and Group Dynamics.

You can hear the full interview replay or download the mp3 file using the audio player at the top of this post. You can also listen to this interview, as well as past and future interviews, by subscribing to our free iTunes podcast => HERE.  (Resource links for this episode are near the bottom of the post.)

 

Gem of Wisdom:

Love Yourself by Acknowledging Yourself
Make time each day to express your gratitude for who you are, what you do and your gifts.

One Small Step:

Create a Dream Team
Identify the people in your life who give you the support of a loving hug when you need it, give you the support of their expertise and who are the people in your life who challenge you, confront you and ask you questions. Then look at your list and identify a dream team for yourself, starting with one person who will be your vision keeper. Share your vision with this person and ask for the kind of help you need.

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Having the Time of Your Life

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It often seems that the problems and struggles of life capture our attention and get a grip on us. How do you have the time of your life – how can you appreciate the journey – what are the tools or the words to enrich your life?

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This inspiring On Purpose conversations is with returning guest, Allen Klein who calls himself a “Jollytologist.” He is an award-winning professional speaker and author. His books have sold over 500,000 copies.

Allen got into this unique line of work after his wife died of a rare liver disease at the age of 34. He saw how humor helped her, him, and those around her cope. After her death, he left his business, went back to school and got a Master’s Degree in Human Development, after writing a thesis on the therapeutic value of humor. He now teaches others, around the world, how to access humor in trying times, and get a new perspective on their situation to deal with everything from traffic jams to one of life’s tragedies.

His most recent book is, Having The Time of Your Life: Little Lessons to Live By. His next book due out in April 2015 is titled, You Can’t Ruin My Day.

You can hear the full interview replay or download the mp3 file using the audio player at the top of this post. You can also listen to this interview, as well as past and future interviews, by subscribing to our free iTunes podcast => HERE.  (Resource links for this episode are near the bottom of the post.)

Gem of Wisdom:
Don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t do it because no one can ruin your day.

One Small Step:

Embody Positive Words
Take an affirmation, some positive words and put it where you’ll see it nearly the whole day – wake up with it by your bedside, put it by your refrigerator, etc. – and see what happens when that is firmly planted inside of you. It may help to life you up and accomplish something that you’ve wanted in your life.

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