After the Leap and Before the Landing: Your Time Between-Dreams

(This post is part of the “LifeWork Renewal 101″ Series. The series introduction is HERE.)

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Have you been there…

suspended in a kind of limbo somewhere between a major ending and your next beginning?

I certainly have. Several uncomfortable journeys there in fact.

It’s maddening.

Endings are hard enough. By the time you come out the other end, you’re tired and feeling more than a little beat-up.

You’re ready for relief. Ready for something better. And honestly, ready for some certainty.

But instead, you often find an uncomfortable pause. A between-place that can extend much longer than the practical-brain can stand.

It’s not what you were expecting. And you wonder what you might be doing wrong.

Recently I met Ellen

and her story reminded me powerfully about this normal but daunting territory…

Ellen doesn’t dabble.

She dove into law. She did the mountain of schoolwork, passed the bar, and invested all of her effort and talent. Then she entered misery.

Never a wimp, she gave the profession 10 unhappy years of her life (not counting her years of education.) And, like many doomed relationships, she desperately tried to make it work. She changed positions and explored several different legal roles: Public Defender, Prosecutor, and more…

And found misery in every one.

Ellen’s battle to make her profession work took it’s toll. The stress and misery wore at her pride, ate at her self confidence and, eventually, impacted her health.

Finally, with the gut-deep feeling of standing on a cliff edge, she leapt – quitting, and leaving law for good.

More than a Career Change

It took real courage. It took some good therapy. But when she left Ellen knew it was the only way to get her life back. Beyond leaving law, Ellen was leaving behind her way of choosing. [Read more...]

LifeWork Renewal 101: Ten Truths for the Journey to Your Brilliant NEXT

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You’re on a Journey of Renewal

You may have your own title for this – less grand and optimistic sounding.
Maybe your way of talking about it sums up the challenge of your current situation:

  • “I hate my job.”
  • “I’m in transition.”
  • “I’m exhausted but need to keep going.”
  • “I lost my job, my marriage, my spark, my dream…”
  • “I know I don’t want this anymore, but I don’t know what I DO want.”
  • “I’m figuring out what’s next.”
Or perhaps you speak for the part of you that’s already committed to finding a new way. Something like:
  • “I’m ready. Ready for something more.”

However you express it, know that the loss of your old dream is neither a mistake you made, nor a problem with some logical solution that you’ve somehow missed. Most simply – you’ve outgrown it.

And now Life is calling you to discover new brilliance.

Change – Where the Journey Begins

Change happens.

Your change may be external: your job went away, a relationship ended, your nest is suddenly empty, a loved one died, the housing market collapsed…

Or perhaps your change is more internal:

  • A career path that used to be comfortable has begun to feel too small.
  • Important parts of your life that were satisfying have lost meaning.
  • Work that used to energize now drains you.
  • A goal you achieved and enjoyed  is starting to feel like a jail.

Whether something INSIDE has changed and old roles no longer fit, or an OUTSIDE change has mugged your old life, here you are.

Welcome to transition. The journey has begun.

(And, as you’ll discover here at Brilliant NEXT,  you’re in very good travel company.) [Read more...]

You Don’t Have to Do This Alone

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Lonely in your quest to find purposeful work? Ever feel like you’re the only one asking these kind of questions – and maybe a little embarrassed not to have figured it out?

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Join us for this special “Perspectives on Purpose” series episode for the On Purpose Show. Rather than our usual interview format, Rikk and Susyn will draw on wisdom from recent guests – plus their 50+ combined years guiding people to find meaningful work.

You can hear the full interview replay or download the mp3 file using the audio player at the top of this post. You can also listen to this interview, as well as past and future interviews, by subscribing to our free iTunes podcast => HERE.  (Resource links for this episode are near the bottom of the post.)

Gem of Wisdom:

Open yourself to support

Pause if you are spinning, overwhelmed, or feeling lost.
First find a way to get quiet that works for you.

Now declare your openness for support – declare it to God, to the Universe – whatever fits your belief system. Write it out on paper even.

And then watch. You may get a nudge toward the kind of support you need, or a book may come across your desk, or something will come across your path affirming that Life Itself is supporting you.

One Small Step: 

Identify your supporters

Write down the various types of support available:  experts support, advice, people who call you on your game and will lovingly confront you and people whose shoulder you can cry on – or give you a hug or that warm emotional support.  In each category identify the people who give that type of support.  And when you find yourself feeling overwhelmed when uncertainty is taking hold in your mind reach out and ask for the support you need from the people on your list.

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Imagine the Life You’d Love to Live

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On the path to a LifeWork of passion and purpose what part does your imagination play? What if it was a vital step to love the life you life, would you know how to tap into your imagination?

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This inspiring On Purpose interview is with Peg Conley who clearly knows how to tap into the power of imagination. Peg is the author of Imagine the Life You’d Love to Live, Then Live It: 52 Inspired Habits and Playful Prompts.

She is also an artist, writer and CEO of her own company, Words and Watercolors, in San Francisco. Her work is on cards, calendars, journals, wallpaper, wrapping paper and now quilting fabric.

You can hear the full interview replay or download the mp3 file using the audio player at the top of this post. You can also listen to this interview, as well as past and future interviews, by subscribing to our free iTunes podcast => HERE.  (Resource links for this episode are near the bottom of the post.)

Gem of Wisdom:

Live in Appreciation for all the wonderful things in your life today.

One Small Step:

Open Up a Journal and Begin Writing

It has been so helpful for me to write it out of me when I’m upset or to clarify things, or to dream, or anything. And of course I have a chapter in my book about Journaling and I also have another chapter called. Write With Your Non-Dominant Hand.

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Finding the Calling in the Challenge

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Is it possible to find new lifework purpose when life brings unexpected challenges? What if the challenge itself was a doorway to purpose and a next chapter?

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This episode’s conversation has value in two important ways. You’ll hear the story of someone doing passionate work – that grew from a challenge. And you’ll be introduced to three foods that can change your life.

This inspiring On Purpose interview is with Donna Schwenk, Founder of Culturedfoodlife.com. Donna is the Kansas City Chapter leader for Weston Price Foundation, a worldwide organization comprised of people dedicated to restoring nutrient-dense food to the human diet through education, research, and activism.

She teaches seminars, and has created a resource-rich membership site to open people’s eyes to the power of cultured foods – foods which dramatically changed her health and the health of her family when she began making and eating them in 2002.

You can hear the full interview replay or download the mp3 file using the audio player at the top of this post. You can also listen to this interview, as well as past and future interviews, by subscribing to our free iTunes podcast => HERE.  (Resource links for this episode are near the bottom of the post.)

 

Gem of Wisdom:

Make Your Body Your Best Friend – Start Listening to It.
It’s what houses our soul, carries us through life – it’s the only place we’ve got to live. If you can work with it, it can change your whole life.

One Small Step:

Follow Your Bliss
I did what in the moment made me feel happy. If there was something that I most wanted to do at any moment of the day, I would do that – and that led to another thing, and another thing. I live my life that way.

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Employed By Life – Closing the Gap in Employment

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When you leave the workplace to raise a family or to pursue another goal how can you claim and communicate your unique value when it’s time to re-enter the job market?

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This inspiring On Purpose interview is with Teri Hockett, Co-founder and Chief Empowerment Officer (CEO) of What’s For Work, a community of Empowered Women that has everything in one place; a community that encourages members and companies to work together; to inspire and help each other grow.

As a wife, mother of two, and business woman, Teri understands the challenges women face, and is passionate about showing those in career transition how to reframe their experience to demonstrate what makes them uniquely qualified. She has spent her entire career making a point to help women understand the value of their Employed By Life skills.

You can hear the full interview replay or download the mp3 file using the audio player at the top of this post. You can also listen to this interview, as well as past and future interviews, by subscribing to our free iTunes podcast => HERE.  (Resource links for this episode are near the bottom of the post.)

Gem of Wisdom:

Insure Your Career
We get insurance for our health, for our life in anticipation that something my happen, but we don’t insure our career, we don’t take care of it, groom it, take classes that we need, network.

Do these things to insure your career.

One Small Step:

What Makes You Happy?
Take some time yourself, take a journal out or go somewhere quiet and focus on, What makes you happy? When you were the most happy, what were you doing? What did it look like?

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Creativity: A Path to Calm

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The journey to a lifework of passion and purpose, can be stressful with many starts and stops along the way. Is it possible to find calm in the midst of distress? The answer is Yes!

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This inspiring On Purpose conversation is with returning guest Rev. Maggie Oman Shannon, Senior Minister at Unity Spiritual Center of San Francisco. Maggie is the author of five books, her most recent is Crafting Calm: Projects and Practices for Creativity and Contemplation.

She is currently working on her next book, Crafting Gratitude. She is the former editor of three national magazines, including the Saturday Evening Post. Her writing has appeared in publications including Utne Reader and Beliefnet.com and her work has been featured in Spirituality and Health magazine.

You can hear the full interview replay or download the mp3 file using the audio player at the top of this post. You can also listen to this interview, as well as past and future interviews, by subscribing to our free iTunes podcast => HERE.  (Resource links for this episode are near the bottom of the post.)

 

Gem of Wisdom:

“You are creative. Everyone is creative. Keep exploring until you find your groove. It is so important to wrap your hands, mind and heart around it because it gives you the confidence to bring your creative gifts forward.”

One Small Step:

Capture Grace Notes – Moments of Beauty in Your Life
Carry something with you that would allow you capture a synchronistic moment or a moment of beauty, a grace note in your life. I remember when my daughter saw this oil spill on the ground and said, “Mommy, look – I want to take a picture of it.” It was so beautiful to her. I was walking right by it and didn’t think twice about it. If we can re-train ourselves to look at our world, see the beauty in it, see the grace that surrounds us all the time, our lives will be fundamentally different.

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