After the Leap and Before the Landing: Your Time Between-Dreams

(This post is part of the “LifeWork Renewal 101″ Series. The series introduction is HERE.)

Image of woman leaping - suspended between an ending and new beginning

 

Have you been there…

suspended in a kind of limbo somewhere between a major ending and your next beginning?

I certainly have. Several uncomfortable journeys there in fact.

It’s maddening.

Endings are hard enough. By the time you come out the other end, you’re tired and feeling more than a little beat-up.

You’re ready for relief. Ready for something better. And honestly, ready for some certainty.

But instead, you often find an uncomfortable pause. A between-place that can extend much longer than the practical-brain can stand.

It’s not what you were expecting. And you wonder what you might be doing wrong.

Recently I met Ellen

and her story reminded me powerfully about this normal but daunting territory…

Ellen doesn’t dabble.

She dove into law. She did the mountain of schoolwork, passed the bar, and invested all of her effort and talent. Then she entered misery.

Never a wimp, she gave the profession 10 unhappy years of her life (not counting her years of education.) And, like many doomed relationships, she desperately tried to make it work. She changed positions and explored several different legal roles: Public Defender, Prosecutor, and more…

And found misery in every one.

Ellen’s battle to make her profession work took it’s toll. The stress and misery wore at her pride, ate at her self confidence and, eventually, impacted her health.

Finally, with the gut-deep feeling of standing on a cliff edge, she leapt – quitting, and leaving law for good.

More than a Career Change

It took real courage. It took some good therapy. But when she left Ellen knew it was the only way to get her life back. Beyond leaving law, Ellen was leaving behind her way of choosing. [Read more...]

LifeWork Renewal 101: Ten Truths for the Journey to Your Brilliant NEXT

Image of Man looking across to a summit - ready for career renewal

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

You’re on a Journey of Renewal

You may have your own title for this – less grand and optimistic sounding.
Maybe your way of talking about it sums up the challenge of your current situation:

  • “I hate my job.”
  • “I’m in transition.”
  • “I’m exhausted but need to keep going.”
  • “I lost my job, my marriage, my spark, my dream…”
  • “I know I don’t want this anymore, but I don’t know what I DO want.”
  • “I’m figuring out what’s next.”
Or perhaps you speak for the part of you that’s already committed to finding a new way. Something like:
  • “I’m ready. Ready for something more.”

However you express it, know that the loss of your old dream is neither a mistake you made, nor a problem with some logical solution that you’ve somehow missed. Most simply – you’ve outgrown it.

And now Life is calling you to discover new brilliance.

Change – Where the Journey Begins

Change happens.

Your change may be external: your job went away, a relationship ended, your nest is suddenly empty, a loved one died, the housing market collapsed…

Or perhaps your change is more internal:

  • A career path that used to be comfortable has begun to feel too small.
  • Important parts of your life that were satisfying have lost meaning.
  • Work that used to energize now drains you.
  • A goal you achieved and enjoyed  is starting to feel like a jail.

Whether something INSIDE has changed and old roles no longer fit, or an OUTSIDE change has mugged your old life, here you are.

Welcome to transition. The journey has begun.

(And, as you’ll discover here at Brilliant NEXT,  you’re in very good travel company.) [Read more...]

Constructive Wallowing

Play

Have you ever been tempted to turn away from menacing, uncomfortable feelings like anger, grief or regret and treat them like unwanted guests? Then notice that ignoring them just seems to make them stick around. What if learning to accept these difficult feelings was the key to greater self-awareness and well-being?

ConstructiveWallowing600

This weeks thought provoking conversation is with Tina Gilbertson, the author of, Constructive Wallowing: How to Beat Bad Feelings By Letting Yourself Have Them. Tina is a licensed mental health counselor working with adults. She teaches assertiveness and self-esteem workshops and classes on goal-setting, decision-making, overcoming anxiety and finding the right career.

You can hear the full interview replay or download the mp3 file using the audio player at the top of this post. You can also listen to this interview, as well as past and future interviews, by subscribing to our free iTunes podcast => HERE.  (Resource links for this episode are near the bottom of the post.)

Gem of Wisdom:

Listen to Your Heart
You don’t fulfill your purpose all of a sudden out of nowhere. You fulfill your purpose by listening to your heart everyday and honoring what you find there.

One Small Step:

I Like It – I Don’t Like It
This is an exercise to get people used to paying attention to themselves, because too often our focus is outward on what we need to do an what we should do. If you want to know yourself better, you need to know yourself in little ways. All you do is ask yourself, Do I like this or not like it? You might start with your shoes – and pick one, it is either yes or no. You can do this with everything – your deodorant, your bus ride, your boss, your dog, your neighborhood – with everything. Just practice checking in with yourself.

[Read more...]

Aligning with Your True Nature

Play

Are you ready for your work and life to be an expression of your true nature?

Align600

This energizing On Purpose conversation is with Rony Reingold - the CEO of Embodied Truth Coaching.  As a Transformational Coach, Motivational Speaker, and co-Author of the Amazon best-seller, In Pursuit of the Divine

Rony has guided countless clients across the globe towards inner and outer success by helping them clarify, claim and create their personalized dream life.  Rony is the creator of the Revolutionary 7-week Transformational Program ALIGNED and the inspirational Reignite Your Radiance Retreats.

You can hear the full interview replay or download the mp3 file using the audio player at the top of this post. You can also listen to this interview, as well as past and future interviews, by subscribing to our free iTunes podcast => HERE.  (Resource links for this episode are near the bottom of the post.)

Gem of Wisdom:

You are already whole. There is nothing to fix and you are invited to re-focus all of your energy on the light that is already in you and see where that takes you.

One Small Step:

Follow the Energy
1) Make a list for one week of all the things that enhance your energy and all the things that drain your energy. You will start to see on paper, side-by-side all the activities and people that nourish and bring forward the true joy of who you really are. You will also start to notice how often you are engaging in those things that are separating you from your truth. Our truth is really who we most authentically are.

2) In addition, I am a true believer in the power of a pause. Throughout the day stop and pause for two-minutes. Put your hand on your heart and ask, What do I know? What’s true for me? What do I need? If I was being authentic, what would I say?

[Read more...]

Good Vibrations: New Energy for Your next Chapter

Play

Caught in the drama of reliving the same old challenges again and again? Can’t seem to find a sense of flow and facing fears and doubts as you approach a new beginning?

Lisa_Dorey600

Learn how to spark the internal changes that raise your “vibrations” to open a more graceful way to the life and work you desire… This weeks inspiring conversation is with returning guest Lisa Dorey, author of The Angel Stories: Easing Life’s Troubles, and visionary creator of the Rebirth Program.

You can hear the full interview replay or download the mp3 file using the audio player at the top of this post. You can also listen to this interview, as well as past and future interviews, by subscribing to our free iTunes podcast => HERE.  (Resource links for this episode are near the bottom of the post.)

Gem of Wisdom:

Don’t Run Back

When people have made a decision to make a change in their life, and they step out and things don’t feel right, because they are doing something different and they want to just run back – my advice is don’t run back into the safety of what was not giving you the results you wanted. Keep moving through that disturbance because you will move out into clear water and then it will be much better.

When you start to feel turbulence, hold steady because that is actually a good sign showing you that you are clearing the way and that you are on to better things.

One Small Step:

Set the Intention to Raise Your Vibration This is the key to everything. When you really decide to raise your vibration, just do it and really be serious about it – take action and then you will see results in your life. It begins with setting your intention.

[Read more...]

You Will Be Guided: Inner Guidance Lighting the Way Through Uncertainty & Change

Play

Times of major transition can be a confusing, uncertain, and often lonely place to be. They’re times we wish we could have the wisest person in the world at our shoulder helping each step of the way. What if you had access to clear and reliable guidance to light your way?

InnerGuidance600

 

This On Purpose conversation is with returning guest, Anne Archer Butcher.  Anne is a well-known international speaker, writer, and producer who is appreciated for her personal stories of inner guidance, spiritual growth and awareness.

In her new inspirational book, Inner Guidance: Our Divine Birthright, Anne shares how she learned about this guidance and applies it in all areas of her life.

If you missed our first interview with Anne you can can read about and/or listen to it: HERE

You can hear the full interview replay or download the mp3 file using the audio player at the top of this post. You can also listen to this interview, as well as past and future interviews, by subscribing to our free iTunes podcast => HERE.  (Resource links for this episode are near the bottom of the post.)

Gem of Wisdom:

When we work in harmony with the Divine we have to accept personal responsibility as the great Spiritual Beings that we are. And we should see that in everyone else too.

We’re here to accept responsibility as co-workers with the Divine. When we do that we move into greater harmony, love and service and we also begin to see our own dreams fulfilled.”  

[Read more...]

The Power of Words

Play

As you navigate new purpose and direction, how can the power of words inspire and support your journey?

 

PowerOfWords600

 

This blooming On Purpose conversation is with, June Cotner is the author or editor of 30 books, including the best-selling Graces, Bedside Prayers, and Dog Blessings. Her books have sold over one million copies combined. Her most recent book is Garden Blessings, an eloquent tribute to the wonders of the garden, a place where our souls are nourished and memories grown.

When she is not leading workshops or publishing, June’s latest love and avocation is giving presentations on “Adopting Prisoner-Trained Shelter Dogs.” She lives in Poulsbo, WA, with her husband.

You can hear the full interview replay or download the mp3 file using the audio player at the top of this post. You can also listen to this interview, as well as past and future interviews, by subscribing to our free iTunes podcast => HERE.  (Resource links for this episode are near the bottom of the post.)

Gem of Wisdom:

Keep a logbook. Instead of putting sticky notes all over the office, you have one place where you put everything together. This is where all your new ideas will go.

One Small Step:

Find at least 30 minutes in your day to focus on what you are passionate about.

If you don’t have time for a “Morning Coffee Time” then use your lunch time, or time after work for this. Or go for a walk and be open to the ideas that come to you.

[Read more...]