After the Leap and Before the Landing: Your Time Between-Dreams

(This post is part of the “LifeWork Renewal 101″ Series. The series introduction is HERE.)

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Have you been there…

suspended in a kind of limbo somewhere between a major ending and your next beginning?

I certainly have. Several uncomfortable journeys there in fact.

It’s maddening.

Endings are hard enough. By the time you come out the other end, you’re tired and feeling more than a little beat-up.

You’re ready for relief. Ready for something better. And honestly, ready for some certainty.

But instead, you often find an uncomfortable pause. A between-place that can extend much longer than the practical-brain can stand.

It’s not what you were expecting. And you wonder what you might be doing wrong.

Recently I met Ellen

and her story reminded me powerfully about this normal but daunting territory…

Ellen doesn’t dabble.

She dove into law. She did the mountain of schoolwork, passed the bar, and invested all of her effort and talent. Then she entered misery.

Never a wimp, she gave the profession 10 unhappy years of her life (not counting her years of education.) And, like many doomed relationships, she desperately tried to make it work. She changed positions and explored several different legal roles: Public Defender, Prosecutor, and more…

And found misery in every one.

Ellen’s battle to make her profession work took it’s toll. The stress and misery wore at her pride, ate at her self confidence and, eventually, impacted her health.

Finally, with the gut-deep feeling of standing on a cliff edge, she leapt – quitting, and leaving law for good.

More than a Career Change

It took real courage. It took some good therapy. But when she left Ellen knew it was the only way to get her life back. Beyond leaving law, Ellen was leaving behind her way of choosing. [Read more...]

LifeWork Renewal 101: Ten Truths for the Journey to Your Brilliant NEXT

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You’re on a Journey of Renewal

You may have your own title for this – less grand and optimistic sounding.
Maybe your way of talking about it sums up the challenge of your current situation:

  • “I hate my job.”
  • “I’m in transition.”
  • “I’m exhausted but need to keep going.”
  • “I lost my job, my marriage, my spark, my dream…”
  • “I know I don’t want this anymore, but I don’t know what I DO want.”
  • “I’m figuring out what’s next.”
Or perhaps you speak for the part of you that’s already committed to finding a new way. Something like:
  • “I’m ready. Ready for something more.”

However you express it, know that the loss of your old dream is neither a mistake you made, nor a problem with some logical solution that you’ve somehow missed. Most simply – you’ve outgrown it.

And now Life is calling you to discover new brilliance.

Change – Where the Journey Begins

Change happens.

Your change may be external: your job went away, a relationship ended, your nest is suddenly empty, a loved one died, the housing market collapsed…

Or perhaps your change is more internal:

  • A career path that used to be comfortable has begun to feel too small.
  • Important parts of your life that were satisfying have lost meaning.
  • Work that used to energize now drains you.
  • A goal you achieved and enjoyed  is starting to feel like a jail.

Whether something INSIDE has changed and old roles no longer fit, or an OUTSIDE change has mugged your old life, here you are.

Welcome to transition. The journey has begun.

(And, as you’ll discover here at Brilliant NEXT,  you’re in very good travel company.) [Read more...]

All You Need Is Less

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Do you think about living a more eco-friendly and simple life but find that some of your daily habits get in the way? What if you there were simple steps you could take immediately to have greater simplicity in your life and free up your energy, would you take them?

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This enlightening On Purpose conversation is with Madeleine Somerville, the author of All You Need Is Less: The Eco-Friendly Guide to Guilt-Free Green Living and Stress-Free Simplicity.

Madeleine adores writing in all its incarnations, and has a popular blog at SweetMadeleine.ca. She has a B.A. in sociology and became an unrepentant, tree-hugging hippie after moving to British Columbia eight years ago. She lives in Vancouver, Canada with her husband, Adam, her baby girl, Olive, and their dog, Gus.

You can hear the full interview replay or download the mp3 file using the audio player at the top of this post. You can also listen to this interview, as well as past and future interviews, by subscribing to our free iTunes podcast => HERE.  (Resource links for this episode are near the bottom of the post.)

Gem of Wisdom:

Be gentle with yourself in this process.

Focus on what you are doing. Take small steps. Be encouraged by how far you’ve come instead of looking at how far you have to go. Pick one area of your life that you are excited about and start there.

One Small Step:

Re-Focus Holidays Not On the Gift rather On the Experience

  • Do a “Secret Santa” gift exchange in your families – so you are giving one person a gift.
  • Wrap gifts in newspaper with colorful ribbon, put gorgeous buttons on it, or you can paint on it. If you are giving a child a little kitchen set you can wrap it in an apron. If you’re going art supplies you can wrap them in a smock.
  • Create a tradition of giving-out, volunteering at a soup-kitchen or homeless shelter. If you have a child, going through the toy box and choosing toys to give someone who might not have as much. Re-focusing from getting to giving.

Favorite Quotes:

“I started to have the desire to live a more green life when we got our dog several years ago. We brought him home he sat down and was licking the floor. I thought it was so cute and then I realized that I had been cleaning my floor with cleaners that had toxic warning labels all over it. That was the first time I realized I was using products in my home and on my body that I had no idea what the ingredients were.”

“I made laundry detergent and I felt like a magician. It was an inspiring and empowering feeling to be able to make something and to know exactly what went in it. Now I make most of the items in my home from cleaners, to laundry detergent to lotions and shampoos. “ 

“I started putting my recipes together in a little booklet that I would sell alongside crafts that I sold at craft fairs. Eventually my friends started asking for recipes, my family started using the recipes and I found that it wasn’t just working for me it was working for them too. This momentum propelled me to share these recipes on my blog.”

“I made a list of some simple things that you could do like getting a cone instead of a cup when you’re getting ice cream so you don’t have anything to throw away, or using a jar instead of a paper coffee cup when you go to get coffee. My publisher (VIVA Editions) happened upon this list and loved it and I was given the hugest platform to write a book.”

“I went back and forth for months with my publisher to figure out the title. I wanted something that would convey the simplicity of the environmental movement. To be eco-friendly all you need is less.”

“Take small gradual steps towards a more eco-friendly life. You don’t have to do it all at once. Just do one thing one at a time. You don’t have to focus on the 75 things you’re not doing that your neighbor is doing who has solar panels. Let each small success propel you forward.”

Insider Circle Winner

Members of our free On Purpose Insider’s Circle are automatically eligible to win a free book or gift from guests we interview. At the end of each episode we do a drawing, exclusively for our Insider Circle members, for that week’s gift.

This week’s Insider Circle Winner of a Madeleine’s book, All You Need is Less, is, Linda Sfrom California.

Congratulations Linda!

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How to Keep a Good Thing Growing

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Even after you have clarity for a new lifework vision and are actively building it, there are both internal and external obstacles. How do you stay inspired and on-track?

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Every three months On Purpose Show co-hosts, Susyn Reeve and Rikk Hansen, take a step back and host a special episode. These episodes are part of a series called “Perspectives on Purpose,” where we draw on our wealth of experience along with the wisdom of recent On Purpose Show guests.

Rikk here: During this conversation I interview Susyn about her experience and work to keep a good thing going as her passion and purpose continues to evolve.

Susyn Reeve is the co-founder of Self-Esteem-Experts.com and the best selling author of The Inspired Life: Unleashing Your Mind’s Capacity for Joy. Her new book, The Wholehearted Life: Big Changes and Greater Happiness Week By Week will be published in November 2014. She has 40 years of experience as a Coach, Corporate Consultant, Educator and InterFaith Minister. Her clients have included: American Express, New York University, Exxon, Continental Airlines, The Metropolitan Museum and YPO (Young Presidents Organization).

As a teen she wrote in her journal, “What would the world be like if everyone loved themselves?”  This question informed her commitment to partner with clients and guide them in deepening and expanding their capacity to experience vibrant self esteem, peace, happiness, love and joy. She has been a delegate to the UN Commission on the Status of Women, and adjunct Associate Professor at New York University teaching Interpersonal and Group Dynamics.

You can hear the full interview replay or download the mp3 file using the audio player at the top of this post. You can also listen to this interview, as well as past and future interviews, by subscribing to our free iTunes podcast => HERE.  (Resource links for this episode are near the bottom of the post.)

 

Gem of Wisdom:

Love Yourself by Acknowledging Yourself
Make time each day to express your gratitude for who you are, what you do and your gifts.

One Small Step:

Create a Dream Team
Identify the people in your life who give you the support of a loving hug when you need it, give you the support of their expertise and who are the people in your life who challenge you, confront you and ask you questions. Then look at your list and identify a dream team for yourself, starting with one person who will be your vision keeper. Share your vision with this person and ask for the kind of help you need.

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Having the Time of Your Life

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It often seems that the problems and struggles of life capture our attention and get a grip on us. How do you have the time of your life – how can you appreciate the journey – what are the tools or the words to enrich your life?

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This inspiring On Purpose conversations is with returning guest, Allen Klein who calls himself a “Jollytologist.” He is an award-winning professional speaker and author. His books have sold over 500,000 copies.

Allen got into this unique line of work after his wife died of a rare liver disease at the age of 34. He saw how humor helped her, him, and those around her cope. After her death, he left his business, went back to school and got a Master’s Degree in Human Development, after writing a thesis on the therapeutic value of humor. He now teaches others, around the world, how to access humor in trying times, and get a new perspective on their situation to deal with everything from traffic jams to one of life’s tragedies.

His most recent book is, Having The Time of Your Life: Little Lessons to Live By. His next book due out in April 2015 is titled, You Can’t Ruin My Day.

You can hear the full interview replay or download the mp3 file using the audio player at the top of this post. You can also listen to this interview, as well as past and future interviews, by subscribing to our free iTunes podcast => HERE.  (Resource links for this episode are near the bottom of the post.)

Gem of Wisdom:
Don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t do it because no one can ruin your day.

One Small Step:

Embody Positive Words
Take an affirmation, some positive words and put it where you’ll see it nearly the whole day – wake up with it by your bedside, put it by your refrigerator, etc. – and see what happens when that is firmly planted inside of you. It may help to life you up and accomplish something that you’ve wanted in your life.

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Inspiring Wonder

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Sometimes you don’t believe it’s possible to make a living doing what you’re passionate about; or you get strong messages from people around you that make you question your dreams.  Is it really possible to make a living doing what inspires you?

 

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This inspiring On Purpose conversation is with renowned nature photographer, William Neill.  A resident of the Yosemite National Park area since 1977, William is a landscape photographer committed to conveying the deep, spiritual beauty he sees and feels in Nature.

His award-winning photography has been published in books, magazines, posters and his limited-edition prints have been collected and exhibited in museums and galleries nationally.

Williams’s credits include National Geographic, Smithsonian, National Wildlife, National History, Conde Nast Travelers, Travel and Leisure, Wilderness, Sunset, Sierra and Outside magazines.  He writes a monthly column on Landscape for Outdoor Photographer magazine.

You can hear the full interview replay or download the mp3 file using the audio player at the top of this post. You can also listen to this interview, as well as past and future interviews, by subscribing to our free iTunes podcast => HERE.  (Resource links for this episode are near the bottom of the post.)

 

Gem of Wisdom:  
Trust your instincts and believe there is an artist within you.

One Small Step:  

The Daily Practice of Seeing the Beauty Around You
Give yourself the assignment of walking around your house and notice the light coming through a curtain, the shadows on a wall, flowers in your garden and take a few pictures everyday.  Get in tune with where you live.  Get in tune with the changes of light, the changes of seasons.  It is a very positive way to view the world and it just feels good.

Favorite Quotes from this Interview:

“When I was in high school I heard a story about a cousin of mine who followed a career path he wasn’t happy with.  It didn’t really mean anything, at the time, except that I remembered it several years later going through college and realized that I just wasn’t going to let anything deter me from where I wanted to go.”

“I was interested in Nature starting in high school.  We used to visit national parks on summer vacations and I ending up in college working in National Parks and started to backpack into the wilderness and next started to take a camera with me and next I wanted to share that with people.  As soon as I graduated from college I knew I wanted to be a photographer – I knew I didn’t want to work in an office.”

“I have been successfully self-employed for 30 years.  It was something that was very difficult in the beginning but I was young and stubborn and wanted to follow my dream of being a full-time photographer and in essence getting paid for photographing the beauty in nature.”

“The big factor at the beginning was simplifying my life.”

“Ansel Adams was a commercial photographer for a lot of his career, so I saw that someone could experience artistic integrity and commercial success.”

“I’ve had a delicate balance of making some compromises for commercial value to keep myself in the photography field, which is what I love to do.”

“I have spent a lot of energy marketing what I love to do the most.  I could have done a lot of things that would have made me more money in the short run but not be as satisfying in the long run. So my marketing goal was to sell, show, exhibit and market the type of photography that I like to do the most.”

“I’m always going into grocery stores and I stop at the flower section with my camera and take photographs.  One day I was holding a grocery bag, going out the door and I saw a bunch of white roses and I photographed that bunch of roses with one hand – and now it is going to become a poster and be distributed nationally!”

“The world can be pretty crazy at times.  Our own lives can be hectic.  Politics and the environment can drive you crazy and can give you a pretty negative perspective and it’s easy to become cynical.  Beauty is a way for me to counter-balance that – to see the beauty of creation.  It keeps my outlook – my worldview – in balance.”

Insider Circle Winner

Members of our free On Purpose Insider’s Circle are automatically eligible to win a free book or gift from guests we interview. At the end of each episode we do a drawing, exclusively for our Insider Circle members, for that week’s gift.

This week’s Insider Circle Winner of a collection of William Neill’s ebooks is, Judi P. from Ohio.

Congratulations Judi!

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Do You Have a Story to Tell?

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Have you ever noticed that a good story can immediately capture the attention of an audience?  Do you have a good story that highlights your journey to fulfilling LifeWork?  What’s the best way to tell it?

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This weeks inspiring guest Mike Tringe is the co-founder of CreatorUp, the e-learning platform to make great video content.

Mike got his start as a filmmaker when he landed in Morocco in 2001 and started making documentaries.  His students helped him open up his eyes to the world when he started the first high school filmmaking program there, pushing him to switch gears from pre-med to enrolling in film school at USC.

Mike has worked in the entertainment industry for over eight years including National Geographic Feature Films, Creative Artists Agency, Vuguru, and Blip Networks.  He co-founded CreatorUp to make visual arts education accessible to everyone across the world.

You can hear the full interview replay or download the mp3 file using the audio player at the top of this post. You can also listen to this interview, as well as past and future interviews, by subscribing to our free iTunes podcast => HERE.  (Resource links for this episode are near the bottom of the post.)

Gem of Wisdom:

Take Stock of Where You’re At

Stop what you’re doing for a day and break the routine. Do something different, with somebody different; go someplace you haven’t gone before – to see yourself in a new way, to see the world in a new way. This will give you the perspective you need to make a change.

One Small Step:

Get an Accountability Partner

It is very easy and fun to talk about something but if you can find one person in your life – a friend, a family member, or a colleague – and make an appointment with them – a lunch, a coffee, a 15-minute I want to chat with you. During that appointment you might brainstorm an idea for a project, or creating a preliminary plan to achieve that project. The reason it’s important to have a witness is because that will help you to be accountable.

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